That first step


Getting married isn’t the same as being married. Creating a child isn’t parenting. A successful project isn’t an enduring venture. Helping someone out isn’t a friendship. A good choice today isn’t certainty of future. What you wish for yourself often requires much more of yourself than you thought. When emotions are high our expectations don’t seem so […]

Charmed


It requires no effort or intention to disregard how charmed my life is. I gnaw on nonsense daily that poisons my spirit and pollutes my joy. Forgetting the whole time that I’m no true friend of hardship. Any hardship I experience is usually self-manufactured. I’m living a safe life surrounded by loving family and friends. […]

Something about waves


There’s something about waves arriving at the shore. One by one they take their turn. They come. They leave. Waves are temporary. If you miss one you won’t have to wait long. They never stop. Waves are permanent. Many joys have risen and set. The waves wouldn’t know the difference. Waves don’t keep score. They […]

On rainy days in Maine


On rainy days in Maine you find things to do. Like contemplate your existence. Or go to an outlet mall. One usually leads to the other. Or sit in your room and enjoy the great diffused light this rain brought. Whatevs. You could go to the rocks and watch the waves crash. Butbecareful they’re slick. […]

Swimming in the deep end


The first time I told Meredith I loved her was at the Mighty Taco on Grant Street in the city of Buffalo. That Mighty Taco is closed now. We’re married with children. In 13 years of marriage you learn many things. Some things you forget. Like whether you ordered food at that Mighty Taco or […]

Forgotten by tomorrow


When I was in high school I worried about my shoulder blades. I felt they stuck out. Many years later I realized that I had stopped caring about my shoulder blades. They must have stopped sticking out. Or I just changed the way I looked at them. Who cares. The point is I cared deeply to the […]

July 4th Run-on


When you have a twelve pack of cheap beer that’s been outside since the beginning of last football season the only thing you can do with it is shake up each individual can and line them up to be shot from across the pond by a nine-year-old who that very day has also learned to […]

Playing fetch


The bats are out tonight. It’s a fine time, that sliver after sunset where it’s still light out, twilight. Mr. Wrigglesworth is just learning how to play fetch. I’m not certain if this is when that typically occurs. It feels like it shouldn’t have taken this long. He ceased being a puppy-according-to-the-calendar two weeks ago and […]

Lightning & Air Travel


Our flight is now delayed by close to two hours. They’re routing us around a weather system which is adding another 40 minutes to our flight time. As a result my son and I witness a lighting storm from a heavier-than-air compartment hurtling through the sky. We just had some heat lighting in the cabin, too. […]