The virtue of voicemail


I’m sitting in traffic. Not real traffic. Buffalo, NY traffic, just east of the international airport. Look, there’s a strip club. The secrets boutique is now open. There’s a woman driving a mini-van in the lane to my left. I am moving while she is not. As I pass I hear that she’s making a […]

Do the hard thing


William pitched his first inning yesterday. He did great. Though that’s not how he saw it at the time. The Nationals scored 5 runs with William on the mound. Though they scored them due to fielding errors. So there weren’t any earned runs. Which is good for a first timer. I was most impressed by […]

Hard to explain


Where do memories go when we aren’t thinking about them? We’ve all had it happen. We remember something from 30 years ago. Something we haven’t thought about since that moment. Where has that been this entire time? This is crazy to me. How memory works. That we even remember anything at all is remarkable. Perhaps […]

A little peace


When you’re thirsty there’s nothing like water. When you’re tired there’s nothing like a bed. When you’re cutting the grass there’s nothing like a beer. When you’re looking for relief there’s nothing like finding it. When you’re able to find it that is. Some days it seems nonexistent. Some days it’s right within reach. Only to […]

While we do what we do


Scattered throughout my yard are rocks. They’ve been collected by previous owners, I assume, and gathered into small piles. Many were positioned previously for landscaping purposes but were covered by time under leaves and foliage. A couple of summers back I decided I was going to line the edge of the flower beds in the […]

Being wrung out


Some days feel like I’ve just been wrung out. Like every inch of rope has been used. Like every log on the woodpile has been burned. Then I realize that I’m not even acquainted with true suffering. No, I’ve seen it. I’ve even gotten close to it. But I’ve really only observed it. (Which makes […]

Nothing to say


What do you say when you have nothing to say? I’ve found that saying nothing is usually best. Though I usually don’t take my own advice. Those who know me well know I always have something to say. Usually it’s something that doesn’t need to be said. So, I’ve been working on keeping the inner dialogue […]

Pepperoni and playing your part


“I see myself messing up!” This was William’s response when I asked what he sees when thinking about his upcoming 4th grade band concert. Our family had been talking over homemade pepperoni pizza acquired under exceptional circumstances. The evening prior, William won two giant pepperoni sticks at a meat raffle. His sister also cashed in with a baking starter […]

Asking too much


I want to love my family. And be a friend to strangers. I don’t think that’s asking too much. I want everyone to get along. And be free to be free. I don’t think that’s asking too much. I want us to divert our gaze from ourselves. And see the others as equals. I don’t think that’s asking too […]